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| Simon and his father sit at the new table at Ilam Park |
There is a touching story behind the new addition to the stableyard in Ilam Park, a locally made wooden table and benches, so we thought we would share it with you. Our thanks go to Simon Boughey and his family, who chose to remember his late mother at Ilam Park.
Simon Boughey writes:
Ilam Hall, set in the sublime beauty of the Dove and
Manifold valleys, has been a recurring leitmotif throughout my life. As a boy I
ran up and down the stone towers with a plastic sword and shield, and played
football and cricket in the grass below what was then the car park with my grandfather.
I stayed at the youth hostel as a teenager. Before I left to live in the USA in
my 20s, I hiked to Ilam Hall with my dearest friend, kissing a tearful farewell
to the part of England I will forever regard as mine. After I had lived in the
USA for several years and had not been back to England, Ilam Hall was the
place, on a cloudless June day, I chose to meet my parents. I see them now, smiling, by the river, as I
came along the drive. I proposed to my wife on the top of nearby Bunster Hill on
cold April day alongside patches of un-melted snow and thereafter we repaired
to Ilam Hall tea rooms for what remains the best cup of tea for miles around.
They tell me it’s the water.
For most of my life, Ilam Hall and its surrounding pastures
was inextricably associated with my mother. She loved it all, her face creasing
into undisguised and irrepressible joy at the sight of the first lambs of the
spring on the hillside or in simple wordless rapture gazing at length upon the
vistas across to Thorpe Cloud. Of all the many gifts that she left me, an
abiding love for this part of England and the peace to be found in it is one of
the most precious. It will be with me forever.
In the summer of 2011, a couple of months after she had been
diagnosed with the motor neurone disease that would take her life less than a
year later, we went to Ilam Hall to contemplate what the immediate future might
hold. Now unable to walk far, she was pushed in her wheelchair to the Manifold
tea-room garden, and there she sat, for a last time, looking over to Thorpe
Cloud. Who knows of what she thought?
Until the last, her stoicism kept those contemplations from her dearest.
By July 2014, two years after her death, I started to
investigate ways in which my mother might be commemorated. I wanted a tribute
of some kind and there seemed no better place for it, no place more intimately
associated with her and my family, than Ilam Park. At first I thought I would
like to have a bench inscribed with her name, perhaps in the Italian garden.
After contacting the National Trust, I was put in touch with the team at Ilam
Park, and, in my biggest slice of good fortune in the entire process, I met the
incomparable Pat Bate, then business support co-ordinator. My debt to Pat for
guiding me through the next few months, and for her unfailing sensitivity and
wisdom, is a large one.
Pat told me that it wouldn’t be possible to have a bench
inscribed, but suggested, as an alternative, that I might want to think about
donating a table and chairs for the stableyard block, below the tea rooms, for
the use of the physically less able. Instantly, this suggested itself as a
marvellous and apposite solution, and much better than my original idea. My
mother had spent the last nine months of her life in a wheelchair, and,
moreover, my sister, to whom mum was devoted, has lived her entire life in a
wheelchair. The bench and tables were also to be made from local wood by a
local craftsman. The views afforded from the stableyard are magnificent. There
was to be no inscription on the bench, but that too was more fitting; mum never
sought any recognition for herself.
Four months later, the bench and tables had been made and,
on the last day of November 2014, a day of bright sun and scudding clouds, the
bench and tables were unpacked and put in place. It was father’s 88th
birthday, and he, as a retired clergyman, said a prayer of dedication before my
wife, Pat, Anna and Stuart had the inaugural tea, brought to us by the
unfailingly solicitous tea room staff.
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| The table was specially designed for wheelchair users |
There it stands now, and will do I hope for many years to
come. I know I shall visit Ilam Park for as long as I am able, and it pleases
me to think that other people, complete strangers with their own lives and own
associations with Ilam Hall, to whom I will never speak, will take their ease
at a table provided in the memory of the dearest of ladies.
My thanks to the National Trust staff at Ilam Park, and my
admiration of them and the work they do to protect and preserve the matchless
beauty of their surroundings, is beyond words. I know that my mother felt the
same way.
I did not think mum would have minded me adding a text about
her and the bench in the book of commemoration held at Ilam Park. So I asked to
be written, forever to her glory and to the majesty of Ilam Hall:
“This bench was donated by Simon
Boughey, in memory of his dearly loved mother Marlene Boughey, 1937-2012, for
whom Ilam Hall and the fields around were a special place wherein her spirit
soared.”
This week we launched the 50 Things campaign for 2015 - a list of 50 fantastic outdoor adventures that the National Trust think all children should experience before their 12th birthday. 
The list includes; visit a farm, play pooh sticks, play conkers, build a den and go birdwatching.
